What will I need to do as the executor of a will?
“I’m helping my mum update her will and she’s asked me to be the executor. I want to make sure I understand what that means before I agree. What does an executor actually do, and how do I know if I’m the right person for it?”
Rachel, York
Thanks for your question, Rachel - I'm sure it will resonate with a lot of people.
It's great to hear that you're helping your mum with her will, and choosing you as the executor suggests that she trusts you. An ideal executor is someone who is patient, organised, and able to stay neutral - maybe your mum recognises these qualities in you? Even so, it's a big responsibility and it's normal to feel uncertain.
As executor, you would be legally responsible for carrying out the instructions in your mum’s will and overseeing the management of her estate, even if you choose to use professional help. This means you would need to collect and value her assets, pay debt and taxes, apply for probate if it’s needed, and distribute the estate to beneficiaries in line with the will. Executors may also need to notify organisations, close accounts, and handle property sales. You would also have to communicate regularly with the beneficiaries, and keep detailed records.
If all this seems like a lot, then you're right - being an executor is a big responsibility! But there is plenty of support available (including on this website), and family members are usually able to manage. Some choose to see it as a final expression of gratitude for their loved ones, which can help.
That said, there are valid reasons for feeling like you can't take this on - and you shouldn't feel guilty if this is the case. The task can feel overwhelming, especially with complicated estates or large families. Probate can take several months, or longer for complex estates, and this may affect your own family or professional obligations. You may also simply wonder whether you can cope with the complexity and responsibility.
Remember that you don't have to take on this task alone. Many wills name more than one executor (up to 4 are allowed), so if you'd feel more comfortable sharing responsibility with other family members or friends then you could discuss this with your mum. I'm sure she won't want you to worry!
Alternatively, you could explore hiring a professional executor (usually a solicitor or accountant). Some professional executors charge a fixed fee, while others charge a percentage of the estate value, which can be higher for large estates. Fees can range from around £500 to over £20,000, depending on the complexity of the estate.
Sometimes people change their mind about being an executor, and you should know that this is normal and absolutely okay! You may feel up to the task right now, but in 10 or 20 years you may feel differently. If this is the case you will be able to formally renounce the role, or step aside so another executor can take the lead.
Best of luck with whatever decision you and your mum make, and don't forget to take independent legal advice if you're unsure. If you want to read more about being an executor or the probate process, I've included some trusted links below.
Citizens Advice: dealing with the financial affairs of someone who has died
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